The primary barrier stopping you from everything you want in life

The primary barrier stopping you from everything you want in lifeThe primary barrier stopping you from everything you want in lifeJack Canfield once said,Everything you want is on the other side of fear.And hes right. But Im going to take it one step further. Pain, discomfort, shock, boredom, impostor syndrome, awkwardness, fear, being wrong, failing, ignorance, looking stupid your avoidance of unterstellung feelings is stopping you from a life beyond your wildfleischest imagination.These arethefeelings that accompany a life of success. And yet, these are the very feelings you relentlesslyavoidFollow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreInteresting how that works, right?Wealth, optimal health, incredible relationships, deep spiritual maturity are allavailable to you. But you have to pay the price to have these things. The primary obstacle in your way ishow you feelabout what you need todot o have these things.Most people arent willing to feel difficult emotions on a regular basis. However, if youre willing todisregard how you feel in the moment, youll have access to a world of opportunity unavailable to 99% of the population.When you feel the fear and do it anyway, you get the satisfaction of living life on your terms. Instead of being a hostage to your emotions, you get to experience them more deeply.Hilariously, once you break past the emotional blocks and just act, its never as bad as you think it will be.Make the decision andactNapoleon Hill said,When your desires are strong enough, you will appear to possess superhuman powers to achieve.Similarly, Tim Grover has said,When you crave the end result, the hard work becomes irrelevant.Put most simply when thewhyis strong enough, youll be willing to do anyhow. The clearer and bigger the why, the bolder the how. Hence, if you 10x your why, youll have insights about how to do things far more effectively than the norm. As Dan Sullivan has said,When 10X is your measuring stick, you immediately see how you can bypass what everyone else is doing.If your dreams are big enough, youll have tododifferent things than youve been doing. Not all hows are created equal. Youll have to do things you dontfeel in the momentlike doing. Youll resist the actions you need to take.If you do what youve always done, youll get what youve always got. What got you here, wont get you there.If you want bold results, you need bold actions.If you want it bad enough, your momentary feelings wont stop you. How you feelright nowis irrelevant. Of course its out of your comfort zone. Of course it may notlagefeel goodin the moment.Said Tim Ferriss,A persons success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.Are you willing to disregard your momentary feelings to achieve particular results?Start smallLife is practice.Every day is practice. Right now, youre practicing youre experimenting.Start with small stuff and work your way up.For me, taking cold showers is great practice. Even after doing it for years, I still often experience a moment of resistance. But I feel the resistance and do it anyways. Within seconds, the resistance I was feeling is replaced with confidence and satisfaction.The more frequently you can confront and walk past emotional blocks, the more successful youll be.You will ride some amazing emotional waves.Youll find yourself in situations and ask yourself,How did I get here? How am I going to pull this off?Youll put off momentary comforts in order to behave in ways that generate wild success.You can have anything you want in life. There is a path to get there. But youll have to face lots of emotional resistance in getting there.Do it anyways.Right now.Dont delay.Do something right now youve been procrastinating.Do something right now that shocks your emotional system. Youll quickly realize it wasnt so bad.Then do it again, with inc reasing intention.This is the essence of 10x thinking. Certain hows will get you 10x results. Most people wont go there.Are you willing to go there?How big is the emotional roller-coaster of life youre going to ride? Small rises and dips? Or huge rises, drops, spins, and twists? Life is meant to be lived, emotions are meant to be felt and experienced. You get to design the roller-coaster.Do you want the result bad enough that youre willing to feel absurd, horrible, amazing, ridiculous, and stupid to get there?Or, would you prefer feeling safe and regretful?The choice is yours. But everything you want is available. And the more extreme the emotional shock youre willing to walk through, the faster youll get the results youre seeking.Trust YourselfThere must come a point when you stop worrying yourself over the opinions of others. Even the opinions of your heroes.Your work and ideas must eventually come completely and unapologetically through you.Only when you fully trust yourself and your ideas will you be able to create in a bold, honest, and beautiful manner.No matter how successful you become, trusting yourself never gets easier. In fact, it only gets harder with more external noise and pressure. But you will never be happy with yourself or satisfied with your work if you dont do what you truly felt inspired to do.Your most honest work will always be your best work. More than likely, it will also be your most successful work.Ready toUpgrade?Ive created a cheat sheet for putting yourself into a PEAK-STATE, immediately. You follow this daily, your life will change very quickly.Get the cheat sheet hereThis article first appeared on Medium.